SC Wesleyan Women's Ministry

Connecting Women to God and Others


Written By: hkelley5 - May• 05•12


When I was a child, we wore flowers to honor our mothers. The tradition was to wear a red flower if your mother was living and wear a white flower if your mother was deceased. I recall going to the rose bush and cutting a small rose, and my mother pinning in on my dress. My Grandma Duncan would bring her flower, which was usually a white orchid, and my mother would help her pin it on her dress. Grandma would bring a small rose bud from her rose bush for my dad to wear on Mother’s Day. I remember watching Grandma and feeling so sorry for her because her mother was deceased.

Fast forward forty years. Now I understand how Grandma felt on Mother’s Day. On October 1, 2010, my mother died. I dreaded Mother’s Day last year. Now, a year and a half have passed since my mother’s death. I have found myself reminiscing about Mother’s Day of the past. What great memories.

I considered buying an orchid this Mother’s Day to honor my mother; however, I will have a difficult time wearing it. I do not see my mother as deceased; instead, I see her as very much alive. By Jesus’ death on the cross and through His resurrection, my mother is very much alive. One day I will see her again. As I have thought about this over the past several weeks leading up to Mother’s Day, I realize the colors we used in the tradition of the past were the colors of salvation I learned as child. Red represents the shed blood of Jesus and white represents His purity, and this is a reminder of how He conquered death through the resurrection. Jesus rose from the grave and is fully alive. As Christians, we, too, will be fully alive in death. Jesus conquered the grave!

Something else I have learned is that we honor our mothers in ways we do not even realize. When I do things on a daily basis that my mother taught me to do like ironing, cooking etc…I am giving her honor because I would not know how to do those things unless she taught me. We honor our mothers in life, and we continue to honor them in death as we continue doing the things of life they taught us.

This year I decided I want to honor my mother in the tradition of the past, but I want to change it. I plan to order red and white roses to wear on Mother’s Day. Although her physical body has deceased, her spirit is fully alive in the presence of Jesus; it is honoring her life of the past and the life she is now living! I could say, “It’s the best of both worlds.”

Whether your mother has passed, or whether she is living, give her honor and you will receive a blessing!

To all the mothers living and deceased,


(BY: Julie Kellett)

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